Saying No.

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Saying No.

How can one word cause so much stress?

Is it the concern of being selfish? Is it the fear that we are not allowing ourselves the opportunity to have new experiences and challenges? Is it the fear of believing there is no one else that can do what you’ve been asked to do? Are we afraid to disappoint? Do we need to prove a point to ourselves or others? Are we afraid of conflict and burning bridges?

In this day and age the pressure we are living under to perform, accept, accomplish, respond to, access and be accountable for is too much, not just as adults but teens and young children are being subjected to this prematurely. Our private lives are jeopardized by the creation of global urbanization and technology with the expectation to keep up at all costs.

Yes is stress. But saying no is too. How do we find balance?

Take a look at how stress can influence our health:

1. Stress hormones raise blood sugars
2. Stress contributes to insulin resistance
3. Stress leads to weight gain
4. Stress can increase blood pressure
5. Stress can suppress the immune system
6. Stress can worsen or create allergies
7. Stress can increase the risk of heart attack and stroke
8. Stress can impair fertility
9. Stress can accelerate the aging process
10. Stress can create psychological imbalances such as anxiety and depression
11. Stress can cause or enhance addictive behaviours such as drugs, alcohol, sex, exercise etc.

Here are some guidelines to assist in determining when it is right to say “No’ and find or keep your balance.

1. When you have a bad feeling and your gut says “this doesn’t feel right”…trust it!!! Be true to yourself!
2. Thinking about saying “Yes” to the request causes you to feel overwhelmed before you have even committed to it.
3. Your principles, ethics and/or beliefs are in jeopardy.
4. The financial expense doesn’t fit your budget.
5. It is not fulfilling the goals and objectives you have set for yourself.

It’s OKAY to say “No”. Words and body language are our most powerful ally. How you respond will empower you and the person who has asked.

“Seek first to understand, then to be understood.” – Stephen Covey

Eden’s Journey

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Hey Everyone! My name is Eden, I am 21 years old, a student, a girl trying to lose weight and well a Type 1 Diabetic. I thought I would share my weight loss journey, and all the tips and tricks that I have found helpful. But first a little about me, and my journey to where I am.
I was diagnosed when I was 17 years old with type one diabetes. It does not run in my family, and I was the “lucky” one who got it ha ha. When I was younger I also battled with a disease called Graves disease, which weakened my immune system (luckily I am still in remission), and the doctors believe that this is why I got Diabetes. While staying in the hospital, I realized that I am going to be on my own dealing with this disease. I had horrible hospital staff, uneducated people trying to teach me about Diabetes! One nurse thought I get my insulin after my meals, and another decided to tell my mother who was in a state of panic, that I may go into a coma at any given minute if my sugars were low….needless to say my mother had a breakdown. It was not a great start to say the least, and has continued to be a crappy situation. So ever since I was diagnosed, it’s been me, my body, and well the internet trying to figure this whole thing out!
So I thought I would write a daily blog post about my weight loss journey I am currently on  It is hard for diabetics sometimes because unlike “normal” people, we have to make sure our sugars are constantly ok…no highs or lows, and our heart rate is okay. I hate using the word “normal” but I think you understand what I mean. I am still trying to figure out what works best for my body, but I have learned A LOT throughout my journey thus far. I have always been slightly overweight, but when I was diagnosed I gained almost 35 pounds….I was shocked. All this happened during the month of my prom and graduation. Needless to say…I hated the photos! I was 205 pounds and I felt depressed, and I still battle with these feelings. It took me a long time to start being healthy. During October 2012 I joined a local nutrition program, and I loved it! I did not follow it completely and I did not do a lot of physical exercise, but I still dropped 10 pounds within the first 2 months! I was so happy, and during December and the Christmas dinners….I lost track of my program. It suddenly clicked in me that why am I doing this to myself? My university graduation is around the corner, and I do not want to feel the same way I did in high school! So in January I started to follow the program. It is a bit hard to change how you eat and I am still learning 😛 I go to the gym 4 sometimes 5 days a week (hard with my schedule of 6 courses, work and homework!) But of course I have had a bit of a battle with my sugars which I think I finally “cracked the code” on. Needless to say I am 174 pounds now….31 pounds down from my heaviest! I would like to be around 145-150 pounds for my height (5’6). My graduation is on May 31, 2013 and I am hoping to get to 158-160 by graduation  It is going to be hard, but hopefully you will all support me  I will share photos of myself, and foods I make….I LOVE COOKING! And anything else I find interesting  Hopefully I inspire some of you with my story, and with my future posts  I won’t lie, it is difficult, but it is not as hard if you have someone you can connect with who understands what you are going through  You can follow me on instagram edenalexandriadaly to see my photos day-to-day 
Until Tomorrow!

A Rural Girl Falling in Love with the City

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A Rural Girl Falling in Love with the City

I had lived in the country since the day I took my first breath. After a 6 month stint living in the city in 2009, the kids & I moved back to the country. In 2011, I decided that it was best for me to live in the city again.

It has been quite a transition.

When I first considered moving to the city I was working more than full time hours in pharmaceutical sales & running two kids around before & after school for activities, friends, sports & jobs.

My rationale in moving to the city was less drive time, more family time, more me time. By living there, potentially, I would save at least 30 minutes a day driving one trip into town, one way. There were many days in a week, I was driving into town at least 2 or 3 times. That did not include the 70,000 kilometres in a year I drove with my career. Less drive time meant more time at home, more time to do the things I love to do, less time sitting stationary in a vehicle. This would enable me to create more time to commit to the small details in life I missed allowing me to decrease my stress level. More time off the road also meant I could focus on looking after me. As with most mom’s, wives & women with demanding careers, I was last on the list of people I took care of.

I had a dilemma. I had enjoyed living in the country. I love the space, the peacefulness, seeing the stars in the sky, listening to the coyotes cry at night, the loons call on the lake, the tree frogs singing in the Spring. When I wanted to de-stress, move and ‘get lost’ in nothing, I would put on my running gear, hook up my iPod, put my sugar tablets in my pocket & run. The scenery was plentiful, the running routes endless.

My naivety of living in the city prevented me from understanding the unique benefits it entailed.

Over the past 2 years of being an urban dweller, I am now coming to an understanding of how great it is. My love is growing more than I imagined.

In purchasing our two homes, the ‘must have’ was that it was to be near downtown. We love to go out for dinner. Peterborough’s Downtown dining district is unique with a wide variety of gastronomic options, social and dining experiences. We wanted to be in the heart of the city. The home we live in now is a 20 minute walk downtown, 30 minute walk to the North end. The major mall in our city, although at the other end of where we live is a 40 minute walk. There isn’t really anywhere in the city that we can’t walk to. With backpack on, I am feel like I am making a difference in many ways. The fun part is that there is no one way to get to a destination. There are trails, side roads, main roads, parking lots.

This is the city I have known since I was born, but now that I am walking it I see, I didn’t really know it.

There are days I don’t get in my car. If I need a few groceries, I put on my back pack and walk to the grocery or bulk food store. This serves many purposes; economically, socially, environmentally & most importantly, my holistic health with regards to my diabetes and well being.

The days I need to drive for my business, I now find it enjoyable, cranking up the tunes & thinking about nothing but I also find it extremely exhausting. I reflect back on how I did the miles I did over 7 years, day in and day out.

Although both driving and walking long distances leave me feeling tired, I now notice that there are different feelings of tired. In recognizing these differences, I’d rather feel tired from a walk around town then a drive to Toronto and back.

I am most excited now as we build another new business. This new business entails a store which my Samoyed Husky “Samson” and I will walk 30 minutes each day to ‘work’ and back.

Life is simpler and less stressful. This country girl is converted.