I am not a marriage counsellor by any means but this is my lesson to all of those that think 1 day is a make or break of their relationship.
Isn’t that we have been made to believe?
As long as I can remember I believed Valentine’s Day was a make or break for love. I don’t even know where that belief came from. Do you?
It conveys there is only 1 day in the year that opens up the opportunity to tell your ‘Valentine’ & show them through a date or a dinner how much you love them.
In conversation leading up to Valentines day 2 years ago, Steve tells me he feels that ‘it’s just a day’ that commercialism has promoted to make money. I argue the point. I say it is the one opportunity in the year to highlight our love for each other. He justifies his belief the Valentines day of that year by coming home from work with nothing. In the days preceding I had thoughtfully bought him a well versed card and 2 dress shirts, ironically for him to wear for our weekly date nights. I am so disappointed in his dismissive attitude to the ‘special day’ that I convey anger to him as best I have in me. I have to go out on an errand and out the door I go. When I come back I come home to a beautiful display of roses in a gorgeous red vase and chocolate hearts spelled out “I LOVE YOU” on my pillow of our bed.
I am touched. So much so I take a picture. I shed a tear. I have a selfish, emotional “hey it’s all about me” moment. I don’t understand then what I did or the action that occurred are forced out of my expectations not a spontaneous moment we created together to display our love for each other.
So this year I dedicate this Blog to Steve.
The actions, dinners, conversations, selfless acts, starting my car to warm up every winter morning, making my coffee every day, filling my water bottles, words, song lyrics, music you play just for me and other messages you convey throughout the year have shown me how much you love me. If I had to wait until one special day in the year to force your hand at showing or telling me you love me but I was not witness to it the rest of the year, I would be more upset then you showing up empty handed with a lyrics, poem or sayings created by someone else on February 14th. The day this happens will cause me great concern.
Thank you for teaching me this. xo Tracy